The boys were incredibly upset about leaving me for a whole week yesterday. Especially Toto.
It is absolutely devastating to see your child heaving and crying and begging you not to make them go.
I held it together until they left, and then completely lost it myself.
All I could say to reassure them was "Daddy really loves you.... and if he gets angry you can think in your mind that he really loves you but doesn't know how else to behave". How difficult is that going to be for 10 and 12 year olds?
I just didn't know what else to say.
Boo and Toto...
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You're right- young children have such a hard time thinking through difficult and emotional situations. But think how many children don't get a caring, reassuring mother like you to remind them that their father really does love them. So many children don't hear it at all. Hopefully when you say this they internalize some of it and can remember it if they can. They are so lucky to have your there in their hearts.
I'm so sorry : (
I don't know what else to say.
I guess I hope things aren't as bad as we all expect.
This is soooo wrong ... I weep with you Fe yet have no solutions to offer.
I still favour the hit and run option ... better the boys weep and heal than suffer more angst at the hands of the man who should love them the most.
I know Fe you will take a big breathe and remain strong ...
Just for peace of mind does either boy take a mobile phone with them when staying with DH ... could not hurt as then if need arises they have at voice within minutes ...
biggest hugs babe le
I think you said all you could.
I think you're very brave, holding it together until they had gone.
XX
Oh god Fe. This is the hardest, hardest thing. I hate that this is the reality for you (and for me) and for so many parents who must send their kids off for visits with co-parents who don't always try to do the right thing.
I hate it but you are doing what you must. I'm so sorry that it has to be this way, For them and for you.
xxxx
It sickens me that you have to send the boys off like that. Knowing, the one time I sent my toddler off like that for the day I was anxious and achieved nothing until she was safely back in my arms. Big Hugs xxx
I wish I had brilliant words of wisdom.
Hang in there, hon.
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