After hours and frustrating hours on the phone to the Australian Child Support Agency today.... fulfilling my legal obligation to inform them whenever DH leaves the country..... I have been given a thread of hope. A tiny, dangly, sparkly little thread of hope. The first one I've had since I opted in with the Agency 4 years ago.
Somebody there admitted that they'd f*cked up. Well, the term they used was "mutual responsibility" but he and I knew exactly what he wished he could have said.
Oh wait. He just rang back. He's finding ways to make this impossible again. He's still admitting co-responsibility for the fact that my case has been mis-handled, but he's taken away my hope for restoration of justice within the hallowed walls of that particular governmental department.
Dang. It was bright in here for just a moment.
It was 10 years ago yesterday since DH and I had our day in Family Court. TEN YEARS of him ignoring the orders, and of me trying to get them enforced. TEN YEARS of him having unrestricted access to the kids while openly telling me that he is ignoring the court orders. TEN YEARS of verbal abuse and criticism.
I feel that something inside me has snapped. This kind of injustice can send people crazy. I'm sure it was a HUGE impetus for my 3 month stay in a Post-Natal Depression ward of a psychiatric hospital 8 weeks after the birth of our second child. And I'm determined not to let it get me there again. Determined.
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KEN frustrating and unjust indeed!! But hang in there babe - we're here for you - if that helps. J xox
I'm so sorry to hear about your troubles (and I must admit I feel a bit sick at the thought of all this).
I so hope you can start to find some justice soon - I can completely relate to the burning outrage of the way the system is set up.
Thanks Jen. You have no idea how much that helps.
Thank Guera. I hope hope hope hope that you never get to this point. I'm learning so much now, that if you have any problems with the CSA you should maybe run them by me!! Perhaps the good in all of this is that I can help you avoid some of the pitfalls that befell me.
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