Round one is over.
I don’t know what the worst of my physical reaction to the stress was. I’ve had trouble breathing all morning, and my hands were shaking and my eyeballs seemed to literally twitch from side-to-side when I tried to focus on anything (I haven’t had that reaction before).
But now I’m home and can breathe.
It’s not good news, but it’s most definitely not the bad news that I was dreading, so I’m feeling pretty good. Well, I’m emotional and teary to be honest. I want it to be over, and it’s not going to be for a long time.
It is SO vile to sit across from DH in the Family Court waiting area. Suddenly it’s 10.5 years ago and we’re in the same room going through the same process. Only then I was 39 weeks pregnant-fat, and now I’m just fat-fat. He hasn’t changed though. Still looks like neanderthal man.
And I want to be able to contact Toto and Boo to let them know that, for the moment, they will still be living with me. Last night they were both so scared and worried about suddenly having to move to DH’s.
Yes, that’s the good news.
But it’s only because the Interim Hearing was delayed in order to appoint an Independent Children’s Lawyer (ICL) for the boys. DH and I also have to see a Family Court Counsellor (not together, thank God). Oh and DH’s lawyer has applied for extra time to respond to my response to his Application. Because (as she said to the Judicial Registrar) the Respondent (moi) has made some serious allegations. Har. She also wants to subpoena my shrink and GP ... obviously trying to prove me unfit.
The Interim Hearing (barring delays) should now be in about 10 - 12 weeks. That’s dependent upon the ICL and the court-appointed Counsellor that DH and I have to see.
He’s digging his heels in. My WISH was that he and his lawyer would read my affidavit and realise that he wasn’t going to win and would back down. That hasn’t happened.
So... it’s the long haul. And the big money. Although THAT part of it doesn’t seem to worry DH.
Monday, February 2, 2009
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There's nothing to say in this situation that could possibly help, but I hope for the very best for you and the boys. Stay strong.
Yes Breathe, and know you are strong. Our kids give us superhuman powers, don't they???
I am about to go through the very same thing here in Texas, so all we can do is keep our head up and shoulders back.. Good luck, I'll be thinking about you and the boys
Bj
Good luck with it all, Fe.
Like you say - not the best result but certainly not the worst. Not sure if this will help but when my ex tried a number on me his lawyer went for it big time until he realised my ex was a pathalogical lier... he then backed off completely - fingers crossed DH will have the same expereience when his rep realises the truth. The karma DH is attracting is on a fast track to negative infinity - lets hope it kicks in soon!
As for Toto & Boo - I am sorry that they will have to go through the ICL - something I know you wanted to avoid... But you're a great Mum, a great parent, so I am comforted by the fact that you're there for them.
Be strong - we are all behind you 1,000%.
Jxox
I'm glad you got through it ok and that the immediate result was good. You are so strong and you are going to get through this for yourself and the boys. We're here for you every step of the way, all crossing fingers for a swift and positive outcome. The ICL is a good step and hopefully the counsellor will be helpful too - maybe he/she can convince him he'll lose? (We can only hope)
I think you deserve a wine or two tonight. :)
Fe, I just feel for you so much over this. I wish there were something I could do that would help. I am trying to have faith that common sense will prevail and that the outcome will be positive for you and the boys. Stay strong, my friend, Thinking of you.
Thank you everyone. Your words of support are priceless.
Toto and Boo were both thrilled this afternoon... I'm turning this into a positive for them. They seem happy with the idea of telling a lawyer THEIR wants, and are convinced that once they have done that, a judge will leave things as they are. Let's hope they're right.
We will celebrate tonight.
Bastard.
I can only offer up cyber hugs, I'm afraid. Rather useless, really.
I hope against all hopes that things work out for you and your boys.
Oh God, there is good but you are still in a sticky web. Poor poor boys.
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