No word from any officials since I last posted. Which is a GOOD thing.
I'm sewing like a mad-woman and staying up way too late at night. It's what I do.
My boys have gone to DH for the next week. They were torn between trying to be pleased about it (I put such a positive spin on it for them) and not wanting to be away from me for that long.
Honestly, we are SO connected, my boys and I. They have been absolutely divine these past stressful days/weeks. They sing with me (not something they'd like me admitting to others) and we laugh and play and just have so much fun. I am one of those people who are very clear that I'm NOT serving them best by being their friend (they need me to be their parent), but they are such great friends to me. Truly.
(except when Boo and I play Monopoly. He can't handle it when I beat him)
My irl friends are awesome. Just the right combination of checking up on me and leaving me alone. Thank you to all of you.
To my "internets" friends ..... you know who you are .... thank you SO much for all support and love and kindness. It's just incredible how kind people can be who don't "know" each other. It's a wonderful world.
And one of my irl friends has met a wonderful new potential partner, and so I am able to enjoy all of that stuff vicariously through her.
It's all good. Especially "her". She is allowed home for a couple of hours every now and then. It's a very good sign.
I DO have a question for all of you, though. How do you cope with major stress?
Monday, October 6, 2008
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How do I cope with stress? Badly. But having great friends and family about helps enormously.
I like to whinge - getting it all out in a public forum is quite useful, especially when you get supportive feedback ;)
The blog was really useful for me while Inigo was sick - the world kept telling me that the kid was ok, but I believed otherwise, and was supported by many people. It helped a lot at the time, and in retrospect I think it was a lot more useful than I realised at the time.
Stress? Hee hee, I hide under a rock, lose weight, don't confront things OR confront things head on in just the wrong way. You don't want to learn about stress from me.
Best thing for me usually is chatting to a non-judgemental, balanced, got.it.together friend. Try and find one of those. :)
Have you spoken to anyone in Holland perchance?
running, running, running (and when severely stressed and Im not eating, sustagen and gold stars in my diary) . Having a very supportive husband who understands my need to be alone every now and then (aka sarah time) also helps immensely . And last but never least, the girlfriends over the years that have listened, cried, laughed and set the world right with me !!
(if all that does not work, I retreat to my bed and read).
I don't. I am a stress head :( I eat, get upset, cry. Not at all balanced!
Coping with stress is different for everyone.
I used to go outside and walk for hours. But that was in my younger years. Nowadays I have my husband and 4 sons I can talk to. They are all different so, they all help in different ways. I put all the help together and for me, that works wonders.
I hope you'll find the right way to cope with the stress your having right now.
Trui xx
I used my blog to vent until recently.
Now, I'm not sure.
Actually, I do know how I cope with bad stress, it is something I learnt as a child. I vague out. I try not to feel too much. For example: When Ivy is really sick I can't let myself think about the stress of it all too much otherwise I wouldn't be able to be strong for her. It would be too much so my brain kind of shuts down, goes to a vague space. It's weird but it works. Of course, doing it that way has it's problems but it helps to get through that acute phase of stress.
Other than that, I comfort eat. Cheese twisties in particular.
Chocolate
Nutella on Bananas and Graham Crackers
Blogging
Running
Crying
Reading
Thinking
Finding someone worse off to help.
Hanging in there assured that this too shall pass...eventually.
And best of all are the little angels, seen and un, who buoy me up sometimes with, oft without, my awareness.
Hang in there Fe! Did you know (I'm sure you do) that the word Fe is Faith, in Spanish? only it's pronounced "fay" as in "Hay". But still, you strike me as a person who has a deep reservoir of Fe. You'll be fine so long as you decide to be. ♥
Fe-
Stress can be a thing that binds you so tightly together that it enables you to stand taller than ever before.
NO PRESSURE....NO DIAMONDS.
At its worst: I just find peace in the knowledge that all things change. This too shall pass.
I know these times are incredibly tough, and I feel your pain--but remember that they are Ying to Yang. Next week when the boys are back with you there will be so much happiness.
Stress? What's that?? Haha...
I guess I cry.. lots of crying, lots of eating, lots of fits, lots of all the bad stuff. I whinge to my friends and cry some more.
In short: I don't manage at all.. I just survive.
Take care!
Big X Eveline
Major stress ... Normally I eat or don't eat as I recently discovered when my husband decided on a separation (he's back now thank fully though).
I find I dig deeper and look for others in similar situations to share the burden with.
I cling to my faith, pray and hope for a solution -
I try to gently remind myself to treasure the good, I wrap myself in comfort and if so be it - I let the sadness come.
There is a good reason we have tear ducts.
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